Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Instructing the Heart

"Instructing a child's heart is not simply transferring data from parent to child. It is impressing the heart with truth."

"Honor for God, respect for authority, respect for others, and a gracious and productive atmosphere in our homes will be some of the blessings of biblical formative instruction. Modern homes can be the shelter where dignity, loyalty to family valued and standards are kept, helping our children to face the world and its challenges every day."

Tedd & Margy Tripp
(from "Instructing a Child's Heart")

Thursday, June 2, 2011

100 FREE things to do with your kids this summer!!


1. Library-check out books that have IDEAS - give reason for further hands on study (activity). Reserve books through your online service at your local library that have items of interest for your childs age group, how to make paper airplanes, science experiments, craft projects, etc. even as we are learning about different artists we are practicing our learning by completing art projects...get creative with the books you can get...

2. Library-STORY TIME - something about a different setting breaks up the routine for the kids, gives them something to look forward to.

3. Local Park - go early, pack a lunch, bring a drawing tablet, enjoy the outside before its too hot.

4. Take a field trip.

5. Visit a fire department.

6. Play in the water - but aside from the everyday play in the sprinkler, kiddie pool - make games with the water - use the water with paint brushes and paint the fence (it dries clear, lol)...put coloring in the water and stretch paper across a fence - fill water guns with this colored water and then they are really painting with water colors.

7. Build a fort, go to nearby woods, gather sticks, broken branches, etc. build a fort, or house this will provide days worth of enjoyment both in the gathering/building/playing inside.

8. Take a nature walk.. take along a journal, let the kids bring cameras, then go home, identify everything your photographed, create a nature book. Thats a whole nother days activities (paper, photos, glue, scissors, notebook) this is especially good saved for a rainy day.

9. Take an "Alphabet tour"... again camera(s) in hand, journals - letter guides for younger kids - drive to town/city - begin with the letter a (Apple street) b (building) c (colosseum) d(dairy queen) e(eatery) you get the drift - when you are done - each child has a personal and creative alphabet memory book.

10. Check out kids free days at your museums.

11. Make homeade ice cream (if you dont keep heavy cream on hand you will have to buy it, but hey its still pretty cheap entertainment/enjoyment). Make popcicles, smoothies, ice cream sundaes.

12. Go on a scavengar hunt

13. Host a neighborhood carnival (we're talking bean bag toss, use the water gun to shoot the ducky, egg on the spoon, those kind of games) - each neighbor hosts a game/activity and gives out a snack/drink - makes for a very fun day..

14. Go to an outdoor concert (most towns/cities have a website where you can see what/when and which ones are free.)

15. Check your movie theatre for free summer movies (usually morning showings)

16. Go to the beach.

17. Check out your local hardware store - they offer free kids club building projects.

18. Cook with your kids (my kids are still loving to cook the evening meals with me) but let them plan it, be apart of the shopping, table setting - make dessert!)

19. Host a cooking party - invite some friends (your kids arent the only ones home and wanting something to do) - have each mom bring a few ingredients and spend the day making cookies, treats, etc. (maybe you know someone who could use some extra love and attention - make a whole meal with these friends, let the kids make cards, and go make someones day brighter and happier).

20. Teach the kids frisbee golf.

21. Go fly a kite (why not make them first).

22. Do a sewing project together. Make a picnic or story time blanket, apron, or summer dress.

23. Make sock puppets - put on a puppet shows.

24. Go outside for reading time.

25. Make and blow bubbles.

26. Hide all the army men, mini animals, etc. in the sand pit - have a excavation. (even read a book about archeologists before hand).

27. Play dress up.

28. Have a tea party.

29. Make an obstacle course out of your back yard and have races.

30. Play jacks.

31. Go fishing.

32. Go on a bike ride.

33. Camp in your back yard.

34. Melt and create with crayons.

35. Visit a local state park.

36. Go bowling (a lot of the alleys offer students 2 free games over the summer).

37. Plant a garden using seeds from your vegetables/fruits.

38. Tour local historic sites.

39. Make a star gazing map.

40. Teach the kids to knit.

41. Check with a local farm - offer to help feed the animals.

42. Set up a lemonade stand.

43. Set up hotwheels races in the driveway. (my guys love this - they always want to see which of their 100's of cars is awarded 'the fastest" - have them make a trophy to give to the winning car - then next time - the new winning car gets the trophy.

44. Have a LEGO building contest (using x# pieces, only using blue pieces, creating something a certain height, create something that moves, etc.)

45. Make a doll.

46. Hunt for animal tracks. (get a book from the library to help identify them).

47. Have a dress up party (doesnt have to be halloween to wear those costumes).

48. Learn bird calls.

49. Use magazines to make mosaics.

50. Check your craft stores for make and take craft projects (Michaels, Hobby Lobby, etc.).

51. Tour a factory.

52. Make musical instruments and become a 'home band' sensation! (think - pie pan tamborine, papertowl holder rain stick, string and cereal box guitar) - dont forget to dress the part!

53. Make tye die shirts. (play some groovy tunes, too)

54. Take a picnic to dad/mom/grandma/ etc... give them a nice break from their work day.

55. Make a tent in the living room.

56. Go to an Arboretum.

57. Make a bird feeder with pine cones & peanut butter (and bird seed of course).

58. Paint with fruit and veggies (and anything else you will let them paint with - think q-tips, old toothbrush, sponges, leaves.... etc.)

59. Play charades.

60. Have a "BORED" game day - pull out all those dusty games and let each child pick a game - if its nice outside - take em out on your picnic blanket.

61. Walk your neighbors dog.

62. Blow up Diet coke with mentos.

63. Make sillouettes.

64. Check out local VBS offerings - a lot of time you can volunteer while your kids attend.

65. Learn/Go Orienteering.

66. Make a compass. (ties in to 65)

67. Gather friends and have a "clean" the park day - celebrate your good deed with a picnic and play time.

68. Sculpt with homeade SALT CLAY.

69. Collect Seashells. (then sort by color/size. etc. - make a seashell necklace or use the shells to decorate an empty jar - adults should use the glue gun).

70. Play "I Spy" as you walk around your neighborhood.

71. Go to a farmers market.

72. Check with a local pizzaria to see if you can come in for a tour (they will probably want you to buy a pizza - so it may not be "free" - but fun!)

73. Check your newpaper for local summer festivals.

74. Make school related activities fun - create your own matching cards (I make mine using these cute digital supplies found here and here). Use maccaroni for math reinforcement, make a clock with a paper plate, help with geometry by giving building tasks, etc.)

75. Learn (play) street games.

76. Make Taffy.

77. Make a checker board and your own checkers. then play for a bit...

78. Make your own board games.

79. Make a Milk Carton Boat - and head to a pond.

80. Have a Christmas in July party and ask all the guests to bring donations for your local food pantry.

81. Participate in a free activity at Bass Pro Shop.

82. Have a major league team in your area - call about free kids tickets this summer.

83. Take a trip to tour your state capitol, local courthouse, etc.

84. Gather, paint, make pet rocks.

85. Plan a theme week (keep checking back here for more details about our themes this summer).

86. Volunteer at a local charity/Habitat for Humanity.

87. Have a pajama day, enjoy movies and popcorn (great for a rainy day).

88. Color.

89. Make a Windchime.

90. Write your own poems.

91. Do a toy swap (pack up those forgotten toys and swap with a friend - kids love new "to them" toys as much as they love :NEW: toys.

92. "Play" school.

93. Make paper dolls for boys, for girls, or for the more advanced.

94. Travel around the world. Have English scones for breakfast, Chinese Stir Fry for lunch, Italian for dinner. Make a craft to go with each country, get a library book with photos of these places. (maybe even see if you have a friend your child can become pen pals with.)

95. Have a switcher-oo day, you send your kids to someone elses house and their kids come to yours... kids LOVE this... just plan a few activities (you can choose from some on this list) and give them a great day as your friend will do with your kidos.

96. Play tennis, soccer, kickball, football, etc.

97. Make slime.

98. Make glowing fireflies. we get our glowsticks at Target's $1.00 bins and they come with 10, so its practically free.

99. Make a sandcastle. If you dont have a sand box, gather up all sorts of containers and some water jugs and head over to your local park - spend the day building a great sand castle together -lots of kids will want to get in on the action so its a great social time, too.

100. Enjoy an art lesson.

Most importantly remember the simplicity of childhood is found in the quality of the time spent together - enjoy each moment, create an environment of joy and excitement, learning and fun and I am certain this summer will be one we all remember for a very long time.

Monday, May 30, 2011

Family Rules

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Good Moms.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Character

Proverbs for Parenting

Proverb 31:10-11 ~ A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than Rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and she lacks nothing of value.

Thought:
"It is my desire to be a noble, capable, wife and mother, who exemplifies wisdom and grace to my husband and children. I know this is only possible through the power of God's Spirit and my submission to God's transformation process (as He remakes me into the likeness of Christ) in my life."

Challenge:
"View all challenges and difficulties as an opportunity to grow in character, to trust in Gods faithfulness, and to rely more completely on Him. Call on the power of God's Spirit inside me; to desire to do the what is right, to enable me to become all that God desires for me to be, so that I truly do become a wife of noble character""."

Prayer:
"Lord, keep this goal in the front of my mind, give me Your power, as I submit to Your ways moment by moment. Lord I give to you full control of whatever it takes to transform my life and my character into the image of Christ."

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Brick Building

If you're a mom, you know the daily mundane cleaning, cooking, diaper changing routine that can make you a little crazy some times.. Well, just when I happen to be going through one of these days.. a friend shared with me an analogy that she recently heard.. It goes something like this:


There are two men building a wall with bricks..
Everyday they pile bricks on top of each other one by one..
First man is asked, "What are you doing?"
And he answers, "I'm just building this wall with bricks..and I have to do the same thing everyday..and pile the bricks one by one.."
The other man is asked the same question, "What are you doing?"
He answers enthusiastically, "I am building a cathedral!!"

Same task. Different purpose. It's all about perspective right? Our daily chores may seem mundane...but what a difference if you take your focus off those things, and focus on the fact that you are "building a cathedral!"... God has us doing what we're doing for His kingdom and glory!






Monday, May 9, 2011

Gardening is a lot like Parenting...


I love this excerpt from AshleyAnn's blog:

"For a month my garden was neglected. It got watered, but other than that it was ignored. Weeds took over. Grass grew high. It survived the neglect, but sure didn’t flourish. Gardening is a lot like parenting…know what I mean? My kids need more than food and shelter. They need time & nurturing. They need me to know what they need and when they need it. They need attention & care to flourish. They would survive without all that, but they wouldn’t flourish. Weeds in their lives would choke out potential and dreams. They’d make it though. But I don’t want my kids to just make it. I want and dream of so much more for them…..I’m learning to garden…..just like I am learning to parent. So far to go, but so very worth it."


Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day!!!


Happy Mother's Day
to all the Mommies out there!!!!

I think I want to start a new tradition... every Mother's Day, book a night at a resort & spa with some girlfriends for a fun getaway/pampering!! I think that would rejuvenate me for at least a few months!! We'll see if that happens next year... I mean, I'll make sure to make it happen! ;)


I hope you had an incredibly blessed day with (or without) your family!!! ;)

"Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her."
Proverbs 31:2

Friday, May 6, 2011

The Desperate Mom

I heard Wendy Hagen speak at MOPS today.. and really loved her talk! It was inspirational, uplifting...but most importantly REAL!

She spoke on "Taking Care of Mom" which is always a great topic! ;) Wendy is a mother of four (one in heaven) so she really gets the craziness and business of it all...and knows the importance of taking care of US.

What I got out of her talk mainly... is that us mommies, we are "life surgeons"... because God has placed these little lives in our hands. And that a life surgeon:

1) Needs to take care of her body (sleep, exercise)
*Scheduling "sleep-in days"- at least once a month. One day for mommy, one day for daddy!

2) Needs to take care of her mind (take breaks, serve outside of our home)
*Get nights off- going out with friends, going out and doing something fun!
*Get outside of yourself and serve others- and serving with your children too!

3) Needs to take care of her man (communicate in the bedroom, guard your heart)
*Ask your husband how often, and try for 30 days!
*Guard your heart, because women are capable of affairs too!

4) Needs guidance from the Master surgeon (get in the Word, talk to Him, and listen to Him)
"Trust in Him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge."
Psalm 62:8

Her talk was fun, hilarious and filled with great tips! I bet her book is a winner too!





Thursday, April 7, 2011

Totally Transformed

I believe that repentance is the key to being totally transformed.
Last week in bible study, I was listening to our lecturer talking about repentance...
and in my mind, I was thinking about the need to not only repent of my own sins..
but the sins that have NOT been recognized and repented by my parents,
my grandparents, and their parents....

While in my parenting, I some times see my parents' bad habits.. and it honestly scares me..
Things that I did not like about what they did or say, now I'm doing... ugh..

My kids and I were listening to Jana Alayra's song "Totally Transformed",
(you can listen to it here),
the lyrics go like this...

"I don't want to be, don't want to be the same.
I don't want to play, play the same old game.
I want to be transformed.
Totally, by you my Lord."

These lyrics were again speaking to me about these old habits..
not just with parenting, but in all areas of my life.

So Lord, I want to be totally transformed by you.
Help me not get stuck in the same cycles of bad habits and sins..
I completely repent of all my sins...and unrecognized sins committed in the past..
Change me and mold me into the person you want me to be.



Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Being Authentic

God has been teaching me how to be AUTHENTIC with my kids.

My children see Mommy and Daddy:
talk about Jesus...
sing worship songs...
learn about the bible...
go to church..
praise Him for His goodness..
pray before we eat...
pray before we sleep...
pray throughout the day...

AND

they also see Mommy and Daddy:
get upset and angry...
be short with them...
make mistakes..
break promises...
forget to pray...
fail to be patient...
and the list goes on....

We MUST make them confused... We MUST look like hypocrites...

UNLESS, we are completely HONEST and truly AUTHENTIC with them.

Because we ARE hypocrites, we DO makes mistakes, we ARE imperfect.
Only JESUS is perfect (Thank God!!).

God is teaching me to share with them my thought process, my shortcomings, lessons that God is teaching me..

I explain to them that:
God is teaching me how to be a better mommy...
I am learninghow to be patient, and kind, and forgiving...
that I am SORRY for breaking a promise,
for misunderstanding,
for yelling,
for being impatient..

I want my kids to know that Mommy IS NOT perfect.. and will NEVER be perfect.
I don't want them to think I am ever PRETENDING to be perfect.

I want them to SEE that God who is PERFECT helps their Mommy when she is weak...
He teaches her how to be content in all circumstances.
He forgives her when she makes bad choices.
He takes away all her worries and fears.
He guides her when she is lost.
He helps her to be humble and not proud.
He strengthens her relationship with their Daddy.

Most of all, I pray that my AUTHENTICITY will point them to GOD...
WHO LOVES MY CHILDREN MORE THAN I EVERY CAN.



Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Successful Child

"Behind a successful child, is a tired mother!!!" :)

-Joyce Warman

Monday, February 21, 2011

Confidence

When I was single... I felt like I could conquer the world..

When I met my husband, I was a confident young woman...

These days, I'm not even sure what confidence means...

Maybe because I have a hard time keeping my home clean..
Maybe because I feel like I can't even raise one child properly.
Maybe because my body doesn't look the same after having kids.
Or all the above.

I love this verse.. Philippians 4:8 says:
"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."

Even though I may not have the "confidence" I used to have...I I am so thankful that I know a God that gives me TRUE confidence... Not the confidence that changes with my mood or circumstance..but a confidence that is unwavering, unbreaking and everlasting.




Sunday, February 6, 2011

3 Things I Tell My Son Every Night

Watch HERE.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Not a Village..

"It takes a FAMILY to raise a child.... NOT a village."

-Annonymous

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

A Twenty Year Process

Lately, I have been very discouraged with my parenting/discipline skills.. and wishing that my kids would just be robots and listen to AND obey everything I say... We all know THAT is not realistic.. This excerpt from Dr. James Dobson's book "The New Strong-Willed Child" gave me perspective, encouragement and hope...

"The purpose of parental discipline is not to produce obedient little robots who can sit with their hands folded in the parlor thinking patriotic and noble thoughts! Even if we could pull that off, it wouldn't be wise to try.

The objective, as I see it, is to take the raw material our babies arrive with on this earth and gradually mold it, shaping them into mature, responsible, God-fearing adults. It is a twenty -year process that involves progress, setbacks, successes, and failures. When the child turns thirteen, you'll swear for a time that he's missed everything you thought you had taught- manners, kindness, grace, and style. But then maturity begins to take over, and the little green shoots from former plantings start to emerge. It is one of the richest experiences in life to watch that blossoming at the latter end of childhood."

Sunday, January 9, 2011

A Gentle Answer..

(From "Proverbs for Parenting" by Charisse Williams)

Proverb 15:1
~ "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger."

Thought:
"It is so important to remember that it is not only what I say to my children, but how I say it. When my words are gentle yet firm, they can respond out of a desire to please. When they are harsh, their response is all confused with self preservation, blame, hurt and a desire to either withdraw from me or lash out at me. They can hear and receive my correction better when it is gentle but firm."

Challenge:
"Think before I speak every time I have something to correct, so that I may not have harsh words fly out and can replace them with a loving, gentle yet firm correction."

Prayer:
"Lord, this is the way You correct me, please help me to be characterized by gentleness, not harshness, as I grow up in You. Lord, protect my children from developing a reservoir of wrath and anger because of my harsh words."

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Kid Time

Quality time with your child is very important. I heard that one-on-one time with your child for at least 15 minutes a day does wonders for your child. Reading, walking, eating out, watching a show or just hanging out are some great ways to spend time with your child.

Family time is just as important. Eating one meal a day as a family is one way of spending quality time together. Another way to have family time is having game night. A friend of mine says it's brought her family closer together. After dinner, every night, she and her husband and her 3 boys would gather to play a board game. If your kids are really young, then a matching game, Goldfish, Old Maid or Trouble might be good games to start with. My toddler boys like to do puzzles, so we play 25 or 40 piece puzzles together while listening to fun music.

We've enjoyed this time of laughter and playtime. It's been a blessing to my husband, to me and and to my kids.

Monday, December 20, 2010

Cleaning & Scrubbing Can Wait Till Tomorrow

the cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
but children grow up as i've learned to my sorrow.
so quiet down cobwebs; dust go to sleep!
i'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep.

-Ruth Hulburt Hamilton

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Proverbs for Parenting

Proverbs for Parenting

Proverbs 2:1 ~ "My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you"

Thought:
"If I am to be a wise parent; I accept the Word of God as truth and I memorize it, so that it is in me, becomes part of who I am, transforms my thinking and gives me a godly perspective of everything. Storing God's Word within me does not happen over night, I need to become intentional, I need to do my part, while I am trusting Him, to do His part."

Challenge:
"Choose a verse each week, starting today! Memorize it with my child, so that it is within me and within them."

Prayer:
"Lord, help me to store up your commands, help my mind to retain your Word, keep me disciplined and accountable."